10 Top tips for the wedding night and after
1 – The wedding night sets the pattern for years to come so it’s pretty important to get it right. Not always possible but setting the atmosphere is as important as anything, so choose a really romantic lodge, hotel or resort for your wedding night.
2 – Ensure that the set up includes candles, champagne, chocolates, rose petals, bubble bath and flowers. This usually does the trick. And make sure you get a queen or king size bed.
3 – Lingerie is important. White, sexy, flowing and easily removable.
4 – Oils and body rubs are highly recommended but it really depends on what you and your partner prefer. If this is going to be the absolute first time then it’s important to chat to your partner in detail prior to the wedding night so that you’re both aware of any concerns or worries on either part. Once spoken about, and discussed, the areas of concern don’t seem so bothersome anymore.
5 – Highly important to remember that lovemaking is an art and although you might be a bit clumsy in the beginning, if you listen to your partners body language, you will quickly pick up what works and what doesn’t. And it ONLY GETS BETTER.
6 – There are no rules in the game of love. You make them up as you go along and always important to share your deepest thoughts with your partner and learn together. Remember, your partner might be just as concerned as you are about certain aspects of lovemaking.
7 – Many couples enjoy rough sex but it is highly recommended that you keep and save this for later during the honeymoon. First night…first time…. perhaps gentle would be the way to go to ensure a perfect ending to a perfect day.
8 - If, for any reason whatsoever, you come away feeling like it was a disaster, do not say NOTHING and for Heaven sake don’t pretend. Sometimes being nervous can have it’s set backs but chat about the experience. Choose your words carefully and suggest that you try something else the next time round. DO NOT SULK.
9 – Whilst on honeymoon you can use the settings to improve on your lovemaking. Sunset walks along the beach, romantic dinners alone on your terrace, bubble baths together, early morning sunrise breakfasts together, a private strip show for your partner and so much more. This can add to the romance and definitely give your experiences a shove in the right direction.
10 – If at the end of the honeymoon, you walk away feeling that things are really not what you hoped for, do not leave it. Remember, sex makes up a good part of a great marriage. Try and get help immediately and it’s always, always recommended to chat to your partner about anything that is worrying WITHOUT MAKING HIM/HER feel like it’s their fault. A new chapter has opened in your life and I believe that if the sex is great throughout a marriage, those are the ones that last forever. No one is going to settle for anything less than what they’re getting at home so try different things, introduce exciting things as you go along and always remember to take time out for a chat. This is how you will find out what the other likes or dislikes and if done from the beginning, it sets the pace for a long, happy marriage filled with an awesome sex life.
Written by Marrilyn
The Travelling Bride
