Parents who interfere in their childrens wedding decisions
Many couples have a problem where parents from the bride or groom or both sides, want to have things THEIR way. And sometimes, because the brides father is paying for the wedding, many brides come through to us and chat about their mothers and sometimes, fathers, interferring in everything that they try to arrange. It takes all the fun out of planning for their wedding and the end result is a really peed off bride and groom who feel like the wedding isn’t really theirs and probably the reason why so many couples opt to elope. We have had to dry many a brides tears because they simply don’t want what the parents are forcing them to have and we have even had brides wanting to hide their marital status from interferring parents. We suggest that bride and groom sit down together and make their plans before they even announce their wedding date. Put down on paper everything that THEY would like to do and how they would like to do it. Once they have it all together, call a family meeting and do not ASK permission from parents or family. Gently TELL them that this is how you would like things to happen. THIS is YOUR dream for YOUR wedding. Ask them not to comment until they have heard you both out. Once you have told them how you would like things to happen, you can then ask their opinions. Jot down things that seem to be most important on their lists so that you and your bride/groom can go over it all again once you are alone and see how you would like to accommodate them. If anyone starts a screaming match, try really hard not to get upset. Perhaps you can then excuse yourselves and tell them that you’ll try the meeting at another time when everyone can talk calmly and nicely. Remember…. you are not a baby anymore and the wedding day is really about the BRIDAL COUPLE and not moms, dads or family. If you are really wanting to elope, then it might be a good idea to tell moms and dads. Remember… don’t ask permission. Tell them that it’s what YOU want to do but feel it right to let them know beforehand and whilst this all sounds really cool, we do understand that there are certain parents who cannot be approached in this way at all. This becomes difficult because it’s this that causes bridal couples to secretly elope and then face the music upon their return. We believe that it important to focus on yourselves and what you both want because for the rest of your lives, you will carry the memories with you……. most times…. long after moms and dads are gone.
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