Travelling Bride

Sex after the wedding

 We all know how awesome sex is before marriage.  Perhaps it’s the “forbidden” fruit that lures human beings but many times, sex between a bridal couple before the wedding, is great and it’s probably a huge part of the decision to tie the knot but…..what happens when, after the wedding and the honeymoon is over and all of a sudden there is a noticeable difference in performance.  How do you overcome the hurdle and how do you get it back to where it was??  Marriage is a job.  It’s hard work and there are loads of responsibilities so important to work really hard at solving the problem immediately and the first step would be to try and define what changes have been made since your wedding so that you can try and pin point the problem area.  For example….were the two of you living seperately before the wedding?  Has your brand new husband been promoted at the office soon after the wedding?  Did the wedding leave you with a large debt around your necks?  Have a very close look at anything that changed after the two of you got married. This would be your staring point. Think back to the most exciting night that you had with your partner before the wedding.  What made that night so special?  Once you have pinpointed where the problem area could possibly lie, make a list of exciting, romantic, different settings that you could set up for a night of passion.  If you know that your new hubby has always enjoyed quiet romantic, candle lit evenings, then set one up right in your bedroom.  If you know that your partner once loved bedroom picnics with a variety of cheese and wine, then set it up right on the floor of your bedroom…candles, rose petals and bubble baths are always  winners.  If you know that your partner has just been promoted and has been working long hours leaving him exhausted, then set up a romantic evening where you can massage him from head to toe and finish the evening with a bubble bath and a glass of wine.  You know your partner better than anyone and if you feel that there has been a change since the wedding, then do something about it.  Don’t wait in the hope that the situation will get better because it never does and remember, sex is great for a tired mind, it’s great for stress and it’s the one thing that is absolutely great for a brand new married couple.  Try to set one night in a week aside, to do something really special and romantic together and you will almost 100% see a definite change almost immediately.

Written by Marrilyn
For the Travelling Bride